(wangle) fix after-delete assert

(wangle) fix after-delete assert

Summary:
This would cause debug builds to do a bad thing (access the variable `this->detached_` within an assert, after `delete this`).

Test Plan: unit tests

Hopefully now that we have a dummy cpp file in `folly/wangle/detail` contbuild
will pick it up and all the dependencies will also run their tests.
Right now, we suspect maybe maelstrom (@wez) and adinvoicer and zookeeper
(@jying) and probably others are seeing this in unit test failures (esp. if
they use asan, which is rightly detecting read after free). Hoping contbuild
will catch them.

Reviewed By: davejwatson@fb.com

Subscribers: net-systems@, fugalh, exa, njormrod, folly-diffs@, wez, dcapel, jying, cgheorghe

FB internal diff: D1630301

Tasks: 5424546, 5435720

Blame Revision: D1618240